My daughter woke up like 6 times last night but a couple of the times I was able to cuddle her back to sleep without feed. I see that as an improvement!! Tonight, she was back to her old self of falling asleep after a feed and play in cot. I heard her cry just then but all quiet after. I really hope this is the beginning of her sleeping better and longer. There is hope!
I thought one night of declining to my daughter’s feeding demand did the trick. Wishful thinking! I fed her as usual and then she came over for cuddle. For a false sense of hope I thought she was going to fall asleep on me. She was very alert and talkative. At the time still hoping she would fall asleep like this. Time ticking by and my daughter eventually asked for milk again. I told her firmly she can have her feed when she wakes up in the morning (that’s a lie really, I am going to feed her when she wakes up whenever). My daughter cried as predicted but not as persistent as last night. After telling her no for the nth time she stopped. I gave her a cuddle and she vomitted a little over my shoulder. Poor baby! I felt bad causing her to be this stressed. What happened next amazed me though. She acted as though nothing had happened and back to normal. My daughter started hugging and chatting to me. She is 15 months so by chat I meant just talking gibberish with some proper words. The cry was really a way for her to get what she wants? I am not doing any mental damage by denying her demands right?? She fell asleep on me tonight and managed to do a 4hrs stretch. That is the longest we have for a month. I hope she will get back to longer first stretch like 5 to 6hrs. This incident taught me that we have to be tough sometimes as parents and set some ground rules. It will be difficult in the beginning but once over the hill it will be all a-ok. At least this is what I am telling myaelf. Hang in there!
My daughter is sick with runny nose and occasional coughs. She was sick for two weeks then recovered for a week and now sick for over a week again. To top it off she is teething with her top molar. Being unwell my daughter seeks more comfort from me when it is time for sleep. It means more feedings and more awake through out the night. It is tough work for us both constantly needing to get up to feed every 2 hours or so. We are moving backward with her sleep. She was able to fall asleep by herself while I stayed in cot with her, same with afternoon nap. Well, not anymore! My girl won’t go to sleep with my husband or my mum after she is sick. She has learnt to say “milk” so that is what she has been asking for when she wants to sleep. I tried denying at first but she cried hard. How can you say no to an unwell toddler twhomis seeking for comfort? Now I am back to feeding her to sleep both during day and night. Having typed this I am nervous as others will judge me, that I am not strong enough and not consistent with the way I get her to sleep. Sigh.
It isn’t a good mind set to be when you are already exhausted with disruptive sleeps. Why would feeding to sleep be a bad thing? I found comfort in reading Kelly mom’s blog – Comfort nursing. Her words resonate with my thinking. I hope the link can bring some comfort to another devasted mum’s day. It sure helped me when I read through it today.
For the past couple of days, my daughter only took one nap in the morning. I fed her in the afternoon and no sign being tired. Then when it’s close to dinner time, she would rub her eyes but still play on. How can she be so energetic?? Where does she get her energy from?? This causes early bed time for her and no “cool down” play time in cot before sleeping. She would go to sleep right after feed.
Is she transiting herself to one nap? She doesn’t fuss or get grumpy with little sleep. I hope this doesn’t affect her development – physically and mentally. No rest for the wicked hey?
The first night after I stopped blogging about my daughter’s sleep issue, I even gave up walking her to sleep when feeding didn’t work. That night, I turned off all the night and snugged into the cot with my baby. She climbed all over me, punched my eye and slapped my face. To my surprise, she slept next to me by herself after being all over the cot for an hour. She did 3hrs for her first stretch for the very first time in months. I was thrilled! I repeated it again the next night and every night. A couple of times I fell asleep in cot because she did, nice way to catch up on some sleep. It can be hard when she is slapping my face and head butting my jaw. My daughter’s sleep improved every night. She got to 4hrs for first stretch and even 6hrs for one night. On a side note, falling asleeping by herself doesn’t mean she will sleep through or know how to go back to sleep. I have got the misconception that if she can fall asleep by herself then helllllloooo sleep. Or maybe because I am still a sleeping aid being next to her in cot? Anyway, I thought my daughter is finally better but I was wrong! Last night she was back to hourly despite I get her to sleep the same way as before. She even woke up at 6:18am to start her day. Tonight, she has been every two hours so far. Sigh. I wonder if it is to do with teething. Her upper central is still not fully out, still got the round edge to come through. Could this be it? I will need to wait to see how she goes tomorrow night. Come on baby, please be good again.
Oh, I had fed her infants friend after she woke up. It says to help with teething pain but she woke up 2hrs after. It is not helping yet.
A few days ago I thought to add something new to my daughter’s dinner – onion. I made the combo of carrot, corn, onion and beef. It tastes decent and my daughter ate it all. As a note I only put in a couple outter slices that’s 1/8 of onion size. Basically not much! That night, she woke slightly earlier for her first stretch and cried in pain to get farts out of her system. She farted a few time and be grumpy. I fed her twice to get her back to sleep. I had cauliflower for dinner as well and I read it can gives breastfed babies gas. So, the next day I tried onion again with only one slice this time. My daughter slept normal for her first stretch and then with her second stretch she only slept for an hour and woke up crying in pain again. She did a few farts and I could hear her tummy rumble. I fed her infant’s friend and fed her back to sleep. She then slept for almost 4hrs. That’s the longest for hmmm 3 to 4 months? Last two night I didn’t put in any onion and she didn’t wake up farting. In conclusion, onion is not for every baby.
Alright, it has been a 100 days and nothing much has changed apart from she can sit by herself, pull herself to a standing position and teething. Well, a lot has happened but just not much with my daughter’s sleeping. I am going to stop blogging about it because there isn’t much to report. Maybe I will talk about her eating instead. That’s more fun. OK let’s end this by talking her sleep from last night. Well, she was ok. Woke up around 2hrs maybe? Didn’t keep track so the time is a big vague. I know I did a feed at 1am and then another around 3am. I was too tired to wait till 4am. She woke up at 6am, sigh, playing. I got her in cot and I just laid there next to her while she was playing. I then waited till close to 7am and fed her laying down. That got her another 45m of sleep or so.
Today, another fussy nap day. With her first nap, it took me 30mins to walk her and she only slept for 30mins. With second nap, it was a little better around an hour.
Tonight, got her to sleep around 9pm and too early to tell how tonight would go. I am not holding my breath though.